Supporting Friends and Family Who May Be in a Domestic Abuse Situation
Helping those we care about when they’re suffering can be difficult when we don’t know what to do. To witness an abusive relationship between a close relative or a close friend can be especially difficult. We merely “want to shake them” in order to make them see what we see and act on what we advise. The problem, however, is that we can backfire by being too aggressive with our opinions and advice, leading our loved ones to stop confiding in us.
Your loved one may be a victim of domestic violence, and there are many ways you can help.
Listen with an open mind.
People who have been a victim of an abusive relationship must cope with a wide range of emotions and confusion. People who have been abused often have feelings of love for their abusers that are difficult for us to grasp. Even if they know it’s the right thing to do, they may still be sad and lonely, and we may not be able to relate. Take a deep breath and just listen.
Because of the abuse, you need to reassure your loved one that it wasn’t their own fault. They also need to know that they are not alone, and that they have a network of people who care about and support them greatly.
Encourage the Use of Expert Advice and Consultation
Someone who can help your loved one navigate the tangle of emotions they’re experiencing will be a huge asset. Counseling and support groups can be found at local domestic violence agencies. If it helps them take the first step, offer to accompany them.
I specialize in helping domestic abuse survivors overcome their trauma and reclaim their lives. To learn more about how I can help, please don’t hesitate to give me a call at the number listed below.
Calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800)799-7233 if you or someone you love is in immediate danger is also an option. They can assist you in establishing boundaries with others so that your needs are met.
To arrange a meeting, please get in touch with me.