How to Help a Loved One After a Miscarriage
Uncertain feelings are common when learning of a woman’s pregnancy. Happiness is almost always accompanied by some level of anxiety for most couples. Worrying isn’t pointless because 1 out of every 4 pregnancies ends in a miscarriage.
Because they are so common, it doesn’t make grieving any easier for those who have experienced one. In the wake of a recent miscarriage, it can be difficult to know how to react with friends or loved ones.
When working with couples who have lost a baby, I’ve learned how to best support them in their grief.
Make Sense of It All!
One in every three pregnancies ends in miscarriage within the first 12 weeks of being pregnant. The baby is then referred to as a “embryo” in medical jargon. For the bereaved parents, this is more than just the death of an embryo; it’s the loss of a son or daughter they may have worked so hard to have for many years.. In the aftermath of a miscarriage, there are so many feelings that it’s important to remember that the bigger picture is always in play.
After a miscarriage, many women are left feeling guilty. There is a presumption of guilt that they have committed an error. Miscarriages are still a mystery to scientists, who don’t know why they occur. When it comes to miscarriage, it doesn’t matter how healthy a woman is. Assuring her that she has done nothing wrong is essential. At the same time, make sure she understands how normal it is for her to be sad.
Make sure to remember that the Partner Mothers-to-be, for obvious reasons, take center stage after a loss. However, the male and female partners of these women are also affected. After the initial loss, they must summon extra strength and keep things going while their partner is in mourning.
If you or a loved one has experienced a miscarriage and are looking for someone to talk to about your loss and help you work through the grieving process, please contact me. I’d be happy to talk about how I can help.